I’ve used a term often on the blog over the years, and it’s been this vague idea that I’ve never really explored or explained further. However, I’ve come to realize it’s the underlying principle to the way I style myself every day, and you’ll see it over and over again in outfits on this blog.
presence (noun) (Merriam-Webster)
: the fact of being in a particular place : the state of being present
: the area that is close to someone
: someone or something that is seen or noticed in a particular place, area, etc.
Being petite, it’s easy to get lost in clothing. Our proportions are smaller, so fabrics don’t hang or drape the same way they do on taller people (losing the basic shape of your figure). Also, we are often being viewed from above (vs. from below or eye-level like tall or average-heighted people), further creating visually shortening effects.
To prevent getting lost in clothing, I use a few styling tricks to give myself what I like to call “presence”. Here’s how:
Show Some Skin
Showing you personally exist under all that fabric can be as easy as showing a little skin. My personal favorites are wearing open necklines, pushing up or cuffing sleeves, and rolling or cuffing pants. Just that tiny bit of skin at the neckline, wrist or ankle is enough to visually give yourself presence. It’s a rare occasion you’ll see me without at least one of these areas exposed…likely even all three.
Show Some Figure
I like to at least show my figure on one half of my body in an outfit. This can be something like wearing a belt or fitted sweater to define my waist, or wearing super slim jeans (especially if my top is lose or blousy).
I prefer a slim leg line on my figure, so generally stick to skinny jeans vs. relaxed silhouettes on bottom. This gives me free rein to play with more generous fits on top while still showing presence on bottom.
A dress I recently wore to a wedding is a great example of how I used some styling tricks to build presence in an outfit. In its un-styled glory, I look swallowed by fabric, so I gave myself presence by showing some figure (with a belt at my waist), and showing some skin (with an open neckline, cuffed sleeves, and strappy sandals).
Ways To Build Presence In Your Outfits
- Shop v-neck or scoop-neck tops
- Wear dress shirts unbuttoned at the neckline
- Use fashion tape to keep necklines open
- Roll or push-up sleeves past the wrist, to 3/4 length, or to the elbow
- Belt dresses or tops at your waist
- Roll or cuff pant hems to show some ankle
- Wear a fitted sweater buttoned just at the waist to create a “x”
- Belt a bulky coat at the waist
- Wear low-cut (low-vamped) shoes
- Wear a fitted silhouette for at least part of your outfit